When I was an older child, I was fascinated by running my fingers swiftly through the flickering flame...it seemed as if my fingers, and the flame for a moment were within each others embrace...but I was careful to not linger...all too aware of the sting that could remain. Some lovers can be that way...fasinated by the warmth of the embrace, yet they will not linger, for they are afraid of getting burned.
We long for the spark of something more
warmth of light enveloping an empty orb
solitude extinguished and kinship ignited
with one touch of the match onto the wick
yet once the flicker transforms into
a steady flame
a mystery smolders in the light
some hearts will hold the flame true
like a sturdy lamp
embracing the beauty's glow
and it's sting
but like the scattering of dry leaves
some lovers swiftly move on
for fear of getting burned.
I recently went with my husband to his 30 year class reunion. There were many people there with the same old story; they had married, had children, divorced, and started new families with grandchildren as well. But amongst the many, there were two couples that had been highschool sweethearts, married in highschool, and were still together to this day. I became completely fascinated by them. When I had a chance, I asked one of them what their secret was...she simply replied "we were friends from the start and we are friends now."...but there is more that I can add to this observatiion. When the music started and the DJ invited the couples to come on down, they were the first couples out there, and when the last song played they were still out there dancing their hearts out. You could tell that they embraced life whole heartedly. I realize now, they are what you call true "keepers of the flame".
Carrie I love this and the process notes are fantastic!
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"keepers of the flame" - so beautiful! My mom's only piece of marital advice to anyone who will listen to her is to always stay best friends. I think she is right.
ReplyDeletelove this post... what a sweet story about the couple.
ReplyDeleteHave a great week.
Ruth
Pamela thank you so much for the compliment...i am glad you liked it! :-)
ReplyDeleteHey She said...your Mom was right about that...sounds like she is a wise lady...you must get a little bit of your poetic voice from her.
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Thank you Ruth...i hope you have a great week as well! :-)
ReplyDeleteCarrie, I love the idea of 'keepers of the flame.' It is wonderful when people can keep love alive for so many years!
ReplyDeleteThank you Mary...i feel the same way...hope you have a wonderful week! :-)
ReplyDeleteMy wife and I have been married for 41 years now... we met on a "blind date" arranged by a friend of mine and another friend of my wife. They both have a very strong faith in the Lord. My wife and I, prior to our meeting for the first time, had been praying that we did not want to be married if it was wasn't to the "right" one with which we would spend our lives together. Our faith, as well as our love, has continued to grow... :) We trust in Him...
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Larry that is such a blessing...i am always inspired when I hear stories like yours. Thank you for stopping by and sharing your lovely wisdom. :-)
ReplyDeleteHello Carrie, I love to hear of a couple meeting young and still in love as they age together in friendship. It was always the desire of my own heart. I met my first husband when I was eleven and we married when I was nineteen. After thirty years of much abuse I finally walked away to keep my sanity. It still saddens me not to have that happy family unit. But I have four beautiful grown children. My second marriage although good, is not the same. With my first husband we had cultural, religious and ethical issues....God says we must be evenly yoken. So true.
ReplyDeleteHi Crystal Mary...i am sorry to hear that you went through such abuse...your four beautiful grown children are a blessing i am sure! Thank you for stopping by with such true words. :-)
ReplyDeleteYour HS friends have truly led a blessed life..I'm sure that all felt their glow...
ReplyDeleteReally like your poem..why some leave at the first burn..and others can endure a bit of singe! A mystery..
Oh Carrie, this was wonderful, both your beautiful poem and the thoughts that accompany it.
ReplyDeleteA wonderful Magpie!
I also begin with the quote 'they are what you call true "keepers of the flame".'
ReplyDeleteWith so many children having suffered broken homes, there should now be the opportunity for parents to promote the secret behind that success. "Never marry anyone who was not already your best friend."
Lust driven marriages can make it, but rarely do they remain healthy in the reality of the lack of a previously tested friendship.
It is sad that true love is so rare - or maybe committment is what is lacking for "fear of getting burned".
ReplyDeleteBeautiful poem... and so true to life is your tale. I know only a slight few couples who have endured beyond the 'fear of getting burned' but have known many afraid to tread the unknown in their relationships.
ReplyDeleteNice magpie.
What a beautiful Magpie Tale. I am a romantic and loved the story of the two couples still together after all those years....rare these days, indeed.
ReplyDeleteMine is up.
PG
Lovely poem and story.
ReplyDeleteI guess I'm one of those keepers of the flame: married 41 years, still loving, still appreciating the newness that comes with each stage of life.
A sweet and wonderful slice of life!
ReplyDeletebeautiful story :)
ReplyDeleteBeautiful. And I especially love the story of the class reunion.
ReplyDeleteYour Magpie is lovely ... I wish I had the opportunity for a do=over, it's too late.
ReplyDeleteI love the story - I want to be like that couple.
ReplyDelete"solitude extinguished and kinship ignited
ReplyDeletewith one touch of the match onto the wick"
looks like I've met another with the same perspective!
cheerz,
Keepers of the flame, I love that. Loved your personal experience that accompanied your poem, it enriched your Magpie!
ReplyDeletetruly lovely - our good friends who have been married forever- are the best of friends and have so much fun and enjoyment in just being together! Great post.
ReplyDeleteStrange how things go... my parents have been together for 34 years and they are each others friends. I on the other hand have never been married and most likely never will.
ReplyDeleteBut in spite of that, I am very much a believer in not only love lasting for a lifetime but many lifetimes...
Very enjoyable poem, thank you for sharing this.
Keep the flame burning. Life's like that - the test is in sharing the warmth and not getting burned.
ReplyDeleteHi Carrie,
ReplyDeleteYou have expressed feelings about long lasting love so beautifully..and I enjoyed your process notes as well!
there is a certain fascination with flame that carries forward...love teh advice the one lady gave...i think cultivating that is your mariage is hugely important...nice write
ReplyDeleteAh, keepers of the flame, indeed. Lovely piece.
ReplyDeletei thank each and everyone of you for your wonderful observations and sweet comments...i have enjoyed reading everyone's take on the prompt...thank you Willow once again. :-)
ReplyDeleteI really identified with this post. I met my husband in high school at the age of 16 and have now been with him for 35 years. Still very much in love, still happy, we embrace and kiss each other every day and we hold hands like high school sweethearts still. It just comes natural to us. I often say we've been very blessed but you hit upon a point that it's true with us as well: we were friends first and still are. Then add sprinkles of mutual respect, love, empathy, understanding, laughter, joy, and well, there you have it. And trials, which we've had many, have only made us stronger. I really, really loved this... gee, you made my eyes water because he's now traveling and suddenly I miss him very much... =)
ReplyDeleteYou made me smile. A smile that arose from the heart and took over totally.... :)
ReplyDeleteGreat observation.
ReplyDeleteOMG...that gives me hope. What beautiful writing and a wonderful true story too.
ReplyDeleteBeautiful. Keepers of the flame, oh yes. Thank you for sharing this, and for visiting and leaving a bit of yourself at my blog today.
ReplyDeleteWhat an interesting meditation on love, Carrie. I enjoyed this.
ReplyDeleteThank you all for reading it...Rebecca your story of love also makes me smile...what a blessing...i have truly loved reading everyones takes on the prompt and wonderful comments on mine. :-)
ReplyDeleteOh Carrie! This is so beautiful. . .
ReplyDeleteI always ask "what's your secret" when I meet couples that have been together for years and years. They ALWAYS say the same thing. Friendship is the key. :) I loved your story.
"We long for the spark of something more."
Your magpie is lovely. . .
I've been with my high school sweetheart for 15 1/2 years (married for 11 years)... this is a great reminder to keep the friendship burning too.
ReplyDeleteFriendship. Isn't that the easiest thing to let fall by the wayside these days? All this busy life and the most important things become invisible. Thanks for your post.
ReplyDeleteAlexis thank you so much your friendship has been such a blessing...you have such an encouraging spirit. :-)
ReplyDeleteI Manda that is awesome that you are still together, that makes my heart smile when i hear those stories of love.
Hi Bethany so glad you stopped by, i have truly enjoyed reading your blog! :-)
What a great story and so nicely written. enjoyed it very much :)
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Marinela x
I'm a real sucker for high school sweetheart stories and, yes, I love having my friend as my husband. Thanks for stopping by today.
ReplyDeleteCarrie I love how you put this...how you wrote about lingering in the flame...beautiful...
ReplyDeleteOh, I love this!
ReplyDeleteThank you Short Poems,Nancy,Sarah, and Sarah for stopping by...i am glad you all liked it...hope you all have a wonderful weekend! :-)
ReplyDeleteThis is beautiful...and so much real-life wisdom here.
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